I am a well educated suburban mom who always has an opinion.....

Magic Mike Girls Night Out

Last night 8 friends all went out to dinner and a movie...and what a movie it was!  


We went to see Magic Mike. I have a few thoughts. Of course. :)


As for the movie itself: It was a very fun movie. The dancing and the cast were the best part. Obviously.  All the men were VERY hot. The story was cute too - but not necessary. :)  This is such a fun movie to go see with a group of girl friends.  It is definitely not too raunchy or dirty - not porn at all (although I should admit, I have never seen porn so maybe I am not the best judge of this?)  


I did come away with three observations: 

1) I still don't get why movies will show women's naughty bits but not men's. I don't get what the big deal is. Maybe because I am a Nurse by training - to me - those dangly bits are just another part of the body. Are American's more hung up on body parts than the rest of the world? What is the big deal? Its like an elbow, ear, ankle, penis...its a body part. Hollywood is always comfortable showing women nude...not men though...why?

 2) My group was the last to leave the theater and we were shocked and disgusted to see the mess left behind. Remember,  this theater was packed 100% with women, mostly Moms I would venture to guess. WHAT A FREAKING MESS...I was shocked. Does this shock you? Do you clean up after yourself or is clean up included in the sky high ticket prices??) 


3) If you are a single guy looking to meet women, wait outside the theater.  At the end of each show, out pour literally hundreds of women just looking to meet  their Magic Mike!  :) 

Fathers Day 2012

Father's Day 2012 -  Well known and familiar tweeters share the best advice their fathers ever gave them!   What is the best advice your father ever gave you?    

For last year's celebrity responses


5 Fun Ways To Keep Your Child Engaged and Learning!

Learning Doesn’t Have To Stop Over Summer!

As my children were growing up I had one important goal for Summer:  I did not want the time wasted.  I grew up with days spent playing and learning.  Most days of my youth were spent outside with friends and we only came home for lunch and dinner!  It was a great way to keep our imaginations engaged and being creative.  We also went to camp, beach, pool etc...  I wanted my kids to have the same great childhood memories.  What I didn’t want was summers spent in front of the tv or playing video games.  These are my suggestions for some non-traditional ways to fill your children’s summer with learning, laughter and memories.  

1. Join 4-H:  Local 4-H clubs are not just about agriculture and county fairs.  Although the 4-H does still play a very active role in the County Fair and agricultural activities, they also offer every possible type of club you can imagine at minimal costs.  My children participated in performance clubs, karate and public speaking.  The clubs are designed to be fun but please know, they will also learn a great deal!  

2. Local Theater: Another favorite in our house was always “Theater Camp” .  A lot of local and community theaters offer programs for children over the summer.  Our particular theater camp offered a combination of classes in Dance, Voice and Acting.  The classes were fun and culminated in a performance for the community!  They also had a camp trip to NYC to see a Broadway Show each summer.  This was always the highlight of Summer for both my children.  (Even if you don’t have an aspiring performer, there are a lot of fun and valuable lessons to be learned in these programs! They are great for building self-esteem, developing public speaking skills, etc... )  

3. Pool Clubs:  Many area pool clubs offer summer Swim Team.  What most don’t know is you do not have to be a member of the pool club to join the Swim Team.   The children are given a lot of instruction on swimming, strokes, etc...while competing with different area clubs. It really is a lot of fun!  

4. Bible Camp:  All different churches offer Bible Camp and again, you do not have to be a member of that church to sign your children up.  It is not CCD or religious instruction!  It is often a lot of game playing, arts and crafts, etc.... There may be a religious lesson included in some of the activities, so if you are ok with that, this can be a lot of fun for little or no cost at all.  

5. Surf Camp:  If you live on the coast, this is a “must”.  I know watching a child learn to surf can be nerve-wracking.  That is why I highly advise leaving this to the professionals.  Surfing can be a lot of fun.  It can also help increase your child’s awareness of how to stay safe with a healthy respect for the ocean.  Professionals will instruct your child how to master surfing in a fun group setting on the beach!  They will also teach ocean safety!  (Most local surf shops offer surf camps in the Summer!)

Of course there are plenty of traditional camps to engage your child.  My daughter spent summers at Girl Scout Camp out in the woods.  It is down and dirty and focuses on building self-esteem and “girl power”!  My son enjoyed the local YMCA sports camps!  The bottom line is get your little darlings up and out bright and early!  Fill their days with friends and activities and they will have fun memories to last a lifetime!  (And you will have time to take care of the chores and maybe even finally finish a book or two!)  




5 Reasons Why Moms Need To Be On Twitter!


If you are one of those moms who avoids computers, the time has come to change your ways.

It’s time to embrace technology and all it has to offer. If you are unsure how to navigate the world of Twitter, visit Youtube and search “Twitter Tutorial”. You will be tweeting like a pro in no time and here are five reason you should:

Sales: Twitter is a great place to find sales, discounts and even free perks. I have enjoyed some pretty nice discounts and freebies from Twitter. You will need to start by following your favorite retailers and by joining the website Klout.

Community: The people who matter in your local community are most likely already on Twitter. Your children’s school district probably has a twitter account. You will get updates immediately. Your local churches, restaurants, theaters even your dentist probably has a twitter account. Its a great way to stay connected to your community.

News: No where else delivers breaking news faster than on Twitter. Remember when Bin Laden was killed? Word spread like wildfire on Twitter despite the White House’s attempt to contain the news so the President could break it. Local, regional and world news are immediate on Twitter.

Connect with people: Whether you are a crafter, quilter or just like the Real Housewives of Anywhere, Twitter is the place to connect with like-minded people. You have real time, direct access to experts, celebrities and politicians. The playing is fieldis leveled. Where else can you tweet with Marlo Thomas and Cory Booker in the same day? You can search for jobs and find out who is hiring. The ability to connect with people is endless. (*not all celebrities do their own tweeting, however it has been my experience that most do!)

Know What Your Kids Are Doing: In my opinion, this is the single most important reason to join Twitter, especially if you have teenagers. You can make a “Twitter List” of all your children’s friends and their friends. And then sit back on any given Saturday night and watch the interactions unfold. It will be revealed in short order who is funny, smart, and who is intellectually challenged. You will often see who is drinking, smoking or otherwise engaging in bad behavior. (Since you don’t have to “Follow” the individual to include them on a “Twitter List”, they most likely will never know you are reading their tweets!) I guess some may consider this an invasion of privacy, but we have warned our children for years about putting info out in the public domain. They have been given fair warning.

Now that you are convinced you need to join Twitter, once you sign on, the first person you should follow is @MomsThoughts :) I will be happy to show you around!

Anne Cahalane is a Howell mom of two and host of The MomsThoughts™ Show. 

*Originally published in the Asbury Park Press :

There are a few things everyone can count on....


One thing we can be sure of in this world is change is inevitable.  Sometimes it is a very welcome event, sometimes it comes as a surprise, sometimes it is not what we wanted or planned for at all.  However it happens, change is inevitable.  

I suppose the "secret" to dealing with change successfully lies all in how you respond to it.  You can dig your heels in and refuse to change.  I think the world will then just move on without you.  Or you can find the best possible way to deal with change while always being true to yourself, your goals and your ideals.  

Generally, I am one of those people who likes change. I have always been that way! I like new adventures.  I like when things get shaken up a bit.  I like to grow.  Even when I don't see it coming, I try to embrace change and see the possibilities.  

Ok...I know, you want to know what the hell I am talking about.  There have been a couple of changes in my life recently.  Big changes.  Emotional changes.  The new hip I got in February brought a lot of change.  I feel a freedom I haven't known in years.  I feel empowered!  (Its not to say I still don't have "bad" days but overall this new hip is a new lease on life!)  Another significant change will be my daughter leaving for college in less than 3 months.  This is huge.  I feel I have less than 3 months to make sure I taught her everything I needed to and wanted order for her to be prepared to go out into the world.  I also know I am going to miss her like crazy.  We share so many things in common she has become my best friend.  Who will talk Broadway with me and go see a show with me spur of the moment?  Who will listen to Scott Alan cds with me endlessly and love every minute of it?  Who will laugh with me at all the funny tweets and things we read?  I am, quite honestly very surprised by how emotional and scared I am of this change.  All selfish reasons of course.  Because for her, I couldn't be happier or prouder.  This is what I wanted for her from the moment she was conceived.  This is what I planned for her.  I always parented with the goal of raising a competent, intelligent, self-sufficient, responsible adult who will go on to boldly experience all this world has to offer.  Her adventure is just beginning and a part of me wishes I could do it all over again with her.  So many adventures and possibilities await her!  

And a final change that has me adjusting, rethinking and planning is the growth of this radio gig!  What a wild ride this has been!  What fantastic opportunities it has brought!  When I tell you the learning curve has been enormous, it is not an exaggeration!  I have gained so much knowledge from guests and also from all the behind the scenes work!   And now, with all the excitement and growth, we are experiencing some growing pains and working through them.  I am sure we will all land right where we need to -- it just gets passionate working towards that end! Working with five passionate women with vision is exciting, thrilling and challenging!  We do all challenge each other to be our best and to bring our best game and I LOVE that about our team!   To think 6 months ago, I had never even thought about radio and now I am so in love with this platform, I can't wait to take it to the next level!  So, here it is:   I am currently working out a way to bring to you a LIVE show!!!  A radio show where guest and you - yes YOU - can call into me - LIVE!  This was always my goal and I am more determined than ever to work out all the technical details in order to make this happen.

You may have figured out these three big changes are all related. They have all converged at this exact time in my life for a reason. I feel like my life is entering an entirely new phase. I am slowly leaving the role of "Mommy" (in a hands-on, needed daily, hourly kind of way) into a new Anne. A smarter, stronger and more thoughtful Anne. I feel ready to embrace this next phase. I feel better physically, definitely wiser and more thoughtful from the experience of being a parent and a little fearless because of this radio show.

The fact that you have taken the time to read my blog and visit my site means the world to me.  I thank you with all my heart for your support and friendship. I hope you embrace the changes coming too!  I can't wait to hear from you and to talk to you all on my show!!!!!  



Its been a while......



I know, it has been a while!  As you may know...SO much has been going on in my life.  To summarize:  I had a hip replaced, started a radio show and successfully helped my daughter find her dream college with a nice scholarship as all.  All this in the past 5 months since my last post. 


So...its not like I have been lazy! :) 


The radio show is a blast.  We have been have a lot of fun with all sorts of interesting guests.  My most recent show was a Book Club event about the hot new must read "Fifty Shades of Grey".   I also attended a premiere party for the Real Housewives of New Jersey hosted by The Marco Sisters, The NotSoSoccerMom™ Radio Network and   We also just opened our Boutique!  If you are not the typical soccermom....have we got gear for you!  Especially if you like BLING!  Please visit the us at and check out every thing we have going on! 


I have also been asked to write a blog for a regional newspaper.  I hoping to see some of those entries posted soon and will re-post here for you to read.  The blog is about family and education.  Two topics I am extremely passionate about.   I am looking forward to this very much! 


I have also been keeping up with my love of all things Broadway.  I recently saw Godspell.  What a fun fun fun show!  If you have teenagers - this is a great show to bring them to.  Its lively, energetic, relevant and parents will appreciate the message and delivery.   I will be attended the "behind the scenes" concert for Scott Alan's new album.  I am very excited about this.  A lot of big Broadway names will be performing. 


Thanks for visiting and look out for new posts soon! 



The Real Housewives of New Jersey Premiere (Season 4) with Kim Pirrella and Lysa Simpson.  April 22. 2012




Kidde Detectors

If you live in the Northeast I am sure you have heard about the devastating Christmas fire in Connecticut.  As a Mom, I live in fear of such a catastrophe.  And that is why I want you to understand why Kidde has made my home un-safe.  

When I had an addition put onto to my home, the local building code required all new construction be hard wired with smoke detectors.  I have no problem with that - at all.  I am one of the people who has one in every room.  So, new Kidde detectors were installed with a hard wire plug into electrical wiring in the ceilings.  They were installed  in my new laundry room, my new bathroom and my bedroom.  

Unfortunately, fast forward a few years later,  the alarms go off every time some one takes a shower!!!  Every time! Even with ceiling ventilation!   Since they are all hard wired together, if one goes off, they all go off.  OH YES!  at a minimum of three times a day, three loud smoke alarms sound endlessly in my home.  

This creates an un-safe situation along the lines of the “Boy Who Cried Wolf”.  We are all so sensitized to the sound that we don’t really care when they goes off.  We no longer “hear” it.  We certainly don’t react with concern or the need for immediate action.  This is dangerous.  

I called Kidde today.  After waiting over 30 minutes to speak to a representative, I was finally told that yes, indeed my model number does have a history with “nuisance” alarms.  This model will go off in a steamy bathroom.  (although it didn’t initially, so why now?)   The Kidde rep  told me I would have to buy a new alarm.  Ok, I can do that.  BUT!  THEY DO NOT MAKE THE NEW ALARMS TO FIT WITH THE HARD WIRING PLUG ALREADY WIRED INTO THE CEILINGS!  Of course not!  Why would they?  Why would they not just make it easy on a single mother homeowner???  (because they don’t care about me, they care about finding ways to make money)

So, to replace their admittedly faulty alarm, I will have to buy a new alarm and hire an electrician to re-wire it.  

Or...I can buy an adapter which will then require a new harness.  This means buying a detector from a local merchant AND ordering an adapter from Kidde AND  hoping the adapter fits the locally bought detector.  HOWEVER the new adapter will not fit with the old harness so a contractor will have to be hired to install the new harness.  

OR I can unplug the damn thing and go on without a smoke alarm in my bathroom.  

Thanks Kidde for those amazing options!  You sold a faulty product and then made it extremely difficult to remedy.  It seems you went out of your way to make it difficult.  Buy this here - that there - hire a professional  -etc...REALLY?  Did you have a development team come up with this incredibly annoying scenario?  

My advice - Stay away from Kidde (FIREX) when protecting your family.  They obviously don’t care about your family, they care about making money.  I will go with a company that cares about both next time.  


Tori and Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood "Secrets of the Baby Bump" Episode 603


The episode starts off with what we all kinda expected, the big ticket items are not selling at InvenTORI.  At least I expected this.  Did you?  And the two staff don't always get along.  I wouldn't get along either with the 
woman who instructs the young man not to count all the inventory because "they are usually right".  Maybe because my background is in Nursing and Banking, but "usually" right just doesn't cut it.  You make sure it is 100% right and you do it the first time!  Anything less than that is lazy.  But that's just me.  We later hear Tori and Dean discuss the employee situation.  Again, Dean is the voice of reason and Tori the voice of compassion.  Business is a place where reason should prevail. Just sayin.....
We also learn Tori is stressed by the papparazzi's questioning of her baby bump; is she or isn't she??  This is a tough one for me.  Usually I say, when you sign up to do reality tv, all bets are off.  If you sell your story for 
money, you can't object to the lack of privacy.  Its part of the package.  You take the good with the bad.  That said, most women choose to keep their pregnancy private for very serious reasons.  If the fetus is not viable, and you were to lose the baby, having to share that with the world would be excruciatingly painful.  Most miscarriages occur in those first 3 months.  So...should Tori be afforded that privacy?  As a woman I say yes. 
Is it practical or possible....I am afraid not and she had to know that going into this rollercoaster that is reality tv. 
Next up:  Tori and The Guncles are discussing the problem at the store and decide thatwhat is needed is a trip to a giant flea market in Texas!! Sure, why not!  So they all pack up their families, the nanny, everyone! Tori, btw, has a fear of flying.  I can totally relate...and while preparing for the trip her friend casually blurts out "I had a dream last night that we all crashed"  Sheesh, with friends like that...who needs enemies? 
And so they are all off to Texas.  Now, I am going to need some help here with this...After you add up all the plane tickets, car rentals, room rentals, meals, entertainment and big truck to transport all the stuff
they buy at the flea market, then add their profit mark up....just how much money are they going to make on this Texas stuff?  or how much are they going to have to rip people off to turn a profit?  And wasn't the point of the store to empty out all the storage they were paying for?  So....the over priced furniture is now going back into the storage facility that was supposed to be emptied and instead they are going to sell OTHER crap from Texas?   WTH?  lol 


But, all seem happy once again.....  What did you think?  

Tori and Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood "Party 911" Episode 602


This is one busy episode.  I am tired after watching it.  The quick run down?  Tori is pregnant with number 3, her brand new store is not selling the big (overpriced) items.  She has to write a book in 2 weeks.  In order to write the book, she has to throw 4 picture perfect parties.  She also has to host her son's 4th birthday.  She has to record her part in a Disney animated movie and attend promotional events.  In the midst of this, Dean has to go sub for Billy Bush at Access Hollywood.  And as if this wasn't enough to juggle....she wants to keep her pregnancy a secret and keep the news from the papparazzi.  And you thought you had a lot on your plate!  


Obviously, working with a close friend on a high stress project is not ideal.  That quickly turns into a disaster.  Frustrations build, stress mounts until there is a blow out at one of the photo shoots for one of the 4 parties.  We all knew this was coming.  I feel for both of them.  What touched me in this entire fiasco was how supportive Dean was...he really seems to know the right thing to say and when a strong, comforting hug is more valuable than words or advice.


I understand Tori's need for perfection.  If you are going to do something and know how you want it done, it is nearly impossible to accept anything less than your vision, especially if it will be perserved forever in a book.  I totally get that.  I would have a very hard time delegating for exactly that reason.   I really feel for Tori and understand her frustration but good for her for going for it anyway.  She knew this would be a big undertaking and she didn't shy away from it. (Her party ideas were pretty fun. )


Because we see she is a bit of a control freak, the papparazzi drive her nuts.  Here's the thing, in my opinion, if you are going to make a living putting your life on display, you can't pick and choose what the papparazzi cover. You can't demonize them for covering one story and then invite them to cover another.  You chose this life.  You earn a good living selling your life for public consumption.  You have to accept papparazzi as part of the package.  I understand wanting to keep your pregnancy secret but you have to accept it won't stay secret for long...especially with your third child.  You show earlier with each pregnancy.  You can't be mad at the media for pursuing the story.  


I do give Tori and Dean a lot of credit for keeping it all going.  They have a lot of balls in the air.  The store, the tv show (she always has her hair and make up done, even in bed), two youngsters, the animals, the friends, the family, the parties, the acting jobs, etc, etc. etc...that is a lot to do!  Then trying to do it all while in your 1st trimester of pregnancy?  wow!  Good for them!  






One of my Favorites

This song is so beautiful.  I cried the first time I heard it, just about a year ago....and I still cry each and every time I hear it.  


BLESSING by Scott Alan


Scott Alan at Broadway Sings for Pride Holiday Benefit Concert.  

(please forgive the lousy video listen.....) 



It was one of those things that start out as a simple plan and grows into something really special.  Months ago I committed to attending the Holiday Concert Benefit for the LGBT Community Center in NYC.  As the event approached, it just got better and better.  I kept hearing about the talent who was signing on to do the show. The most exciting news for me was that my favorite of all Scott Alan was performing!   THEN I learned Scott was doing a second benefit concert that night as well.  He would also generously perform for the "It Gets Better" benefit concert at Joe's Pub!  My daughter definitely wanted to go and my son also said he wanted to go! PERFECT!  I decided to make it our NYC Holiday event!  What better way to kick off the holiday season than by supporting two very worthy causes we hold near and dear to our hearts with a community we love!  I decided to go for it and even booked a hotel room!  After booking all this, I received an email inviting us to attend a taping of the Anderson Cooper show!  Again, Perfect!  Everything fell into place.  It all made sense and I knew it was going to be great little trip.  And I was right!!  


The performances at the LGBT Community Center were wonderful.  The highlights for me were Adam Pascal doing an acoustic guitar  mash up of "Memories" and "Joanna" (Cats and Sweeney Todd), Scott Alan's "Blessing" and a really cute version of "Baby Its Cold Outside" by Mary Lahti and Allison Silko.  


We then high-tailed it over to Joe's Pub for the all-star line up benefitting "It Gets Better".  WOWZA what a show! But first, before we went in, we ran into Scott Alan and friends out on the street.  He is one of the most hilarious men around.  Actually, my son was sort of surprised at how funny he was since my son knows him only through his music.  Scott's music definitely shares a big part of who he is, but is not the whole picture.  He is one funny man.  And like his music, he holds nothing back in his humor either.  We laughed and laughed.  Then went in for a show we will never forget.  Its impossible for me to pick favorites at this show...every single performance blew me away.  I think my daughter's favorite had to be Andrew Rannell's powerful rock-inspired performance.  Suffice it to say, the show was funny, hilarious, touching, heart-warming, moving, intense, etc. It was everything you would want in a show.   


Great, Great GREAT night. 


Next day we made our way over to Time Warner building for the Anderson Cooper show.  We have been asked not to reveal the guest.  But I will give you some hints:  Her message really spoke to me.  She is gorgeous.  She is iconic. She is honest and outspoken (qualities I really love)  She has a slammin body.  Any guesses?  Stay tuned....there will be more on this.....  


Below is a picture of myself and my beautiful children at the Broadway Sings For Pride Concert.  I am so dismayed to report that when I posted it on Twitter, I actually got "hate" tweets.  I am dismayed and dumbfounded.  Apparently people think a Pride event is no place for children??  Which really cracks me up.  It never occurred to me not to take them.  Honestly, I never expected hate tweets.  (btw, don't these people read my Twitter bio, NOH8? Marriage Equality?  hello?)  


Broadway Sings for Pride


ps - I don't think they appear to be damaged in any way from attending this event!  HA HA HA!  

Broadway Sings For Pride


Broadway Sings for Pride Winter Concert

Event Date

Monday, December 5 2011 : 6:30pm – 8:30pm


The Center


Broadway Sings For Pride Winter ConcertMonday, December 5, 2011
Reception 6:30PM, Performances Begin 7PM
Our Broadway Family Sings for Pride

Over 20 Broadway and National Tour performers will join notable personalities to celebrate Broadway Sings for Pride's Winter Concert! Attendees will enjoy a vast array of holiday gold along with a myriad of Broadway hits.

Reserve Your Space Now!

Recording Artist and American Idol finalist Kimberley Locke , Tony Award nominee Colman Domingo (The Scottsboro Boys) will join Drama Desk Award nominee Terri White (Follies Revival), Tony Award nominee Adam Pascal (Rent), and Logo's A-List Cast Members among others in singing for Pride at One-Night-Only NYC Benefit at the Center.

The event will also feature a special video message from Tony Award winner Carol Channing

Among the other artists scheduled to appear are: Scott Alan (composer-lyricist, Home), King Aswad (Rent National Tour), Anastasia Barzee (Jekyll & Hyde), Eleah J Burman (Atlantic Theater Company's TheNealBTV Facts), Bobby Cronin (Daybreak), Meridith Cullen (Off-Broadway’s My Big Gay Italian Wedding), Angel Desai (NBC’s The Event), John Edwards (Jersey Boys ), Lauren Elder (Hair), Elli (A Match Made In Manhattan), Adrienne Fishe (Rent National Tour), Russell Fischer (Jersey Boys), Jenn Furman (Wicked National Tour), Lance Horne (Emmy Award-winning composer/Performer),  Emily Kinney (Showtime’s The Big C), Mary Lahti (Village Light Opera's KIss Me Kate), Cedric Leiba Jr.(Off Broadway’s The Yellow Brick Road),  Lori Michaels (Recording Artist, Me & The Girls), Anthony Lee Medina (Spring Awakening National Tour), Athena Reich (Singer/TV Personality), Angelo Luis Rios (Jesus Christ Superstar National Tour), Khalid Rivera (The Capeman), Bret Shuford (The Little Mermaid), Allison Siko (Law & Order: Special Victims Unit), Antoine L. Smith  (Memphis), Amy Toporek  (Hairspray National Tour), Katie Thompson (Recording Artist).

Nick Adams, Joy Behar, Lance Bass, Reeve Carney, Sahara Davenport,  Kara DioGuardi , Christine Ebersole, Brian Stokes Mitchell , Bebe Neuwirth, The Real Housewives of New York City, Anthony Rapp, Mike Ruiz, Johnny Weir, Wendy Williams, have all given their voices to support Broadway Sings for Pride.

Reserve Your Space Now!

Jim Lahti will serve as the evening’s musical director and Raphael Miranda (NBC New York) and Marissa Rosen (My Big Gay Italian Wedding) will emcee.  Musical accompaniment will be provided Jim Lahti on piano, Sean Harkness on acoustic & electric guitar and David Silliman on percussion. 

Kat Dudina and Mia Grottola, American Sign Language interpreters, will be signing for the hard of hearing and deaf community. 

Audiences will also hear first-hand stories of pride and allyship from some of New York's famous: Allison Siko (Law & Order: Special Victims Unit),Randy Jones (multi-platinum recording artist, founding member of Village People ). 


$27.50 online and $35 at the door  

A Wolf in Sheep's Clothing: A Cautionary Tale


A Wolf In Sheep's Clothing


Twitter is an unusual mash-up of people from all walks of life.  That is the best part of it.  You can interact just as easily with celebrities as you can with a cashier or teacher or mom. No one has to know your station in life.  Its a level playing field.  There is no social hierarchy.  (Well, except for that silly "verified" program) just plenty of opportunity for one on one exchanges.   There are also no guarantees that people are who they say they are.  This means plenty of opportunities for fun and unfortunately plenty of opportunities for disappointment.  

This past week I watched an astounding course of events.  A fella I have tweeted with often suddenly morphed into someone I don't recognize, respect or trust at all.  I guess there were clues all along (hindsight is 20/20 after all) but I naturally see the good in people.  This may be a personality flaw in me, but I one I can live with.  

I trusted this fella.  I thought I was helping out a decent, honest guy on more than one occasion and I was always happy to do it.  And then it all fell apart.  I heard him say things I didn't believe.  People started telling me things that directly conflicted with things he had told me.  The doubts were there and then the sh*t hit the fan.  A horrible plan was hatched at the expense of many, many trusting Twitter people.  They were all going to be pawns in his ugly fame game.  A devious manipulation was executed to gain press and the an opportunity to cash-in in every despicable way he could conceive.  Fake! Fake! Fake!

Why am I so bothered by this?  I didn't lose any money.  I guess its because I lost faith.  Again, I was disappointed by someone.  Sad to say, its happened plenty of times before on Twitter.  These  people take the time to carefully construct a friendship.  They find out what matters to me and then use that to gain my trust. These shysters present themselves one way and only later does it become clear, I was nothing more than a means to an end to them.  I was manipulated and they had motives beyond friendship all along.  That is the part that hurts.  I was never anything more than a portal to others.  These con artists used me to get to the people who I care about and who trust me.  

The way I see it,  I have two choices.  I can either stop trusting people all together.  I can assume everyone has an angle and looking to cash-in or I can continue to believe that for the most part people are good and worthy of my trust.  Based strictly on numbers, I am going to believe that people are good.  Thankfully,  I have had the great pleasure and honor of meeting the most exceptional, extraordinary people on Twitter and they more than make up for the few conniving shysters and con-artist who have crossed my path.  Thankfully, the wolves are few and far between...but still dangerous. So be aware!

Have you been conned by anyone on Twitter?  

Occupy Wall Street Suggestion

May I suggest Sen Bernie Sanders as your spokesman? 



Occupy Wall Street: Much Ado About....WHAT?


There is a lot of hype.  No doubt.  Its all over the news.  I am talking about Occupy Wall Street today.  But what exactly is Occupy Wall Street?   In an effort to really understand the core goals and objective of the movement, I took to twitter.  I thought if I could ask the right question, I could get a solid, definitive answer:  
First Attempt
ME: #OWS needs an action plan, mission statement, goal & slogan. I want a fair distribution of wealth too - tell us how to get there! #FlatTax
-I want them to protest the right people!! Get off the bridge and ferry and march on Park Ave!!
ME: What is the goal of #OWS? How do you plan to achieve that goal? Describe in 140 characters? #Help #Confused.
-I'm confused too
-I'm having trouble understanding too
-Look how much even #msm is talking about inequality, homeless, #wallst crooks now Ppl realizing corp state corrupt. The purpose of protest is to get attention, call out injustice, #WakeUpAmerica, change the dialog - its working! here's a good start, esp point 10: #ows
< Cool, a link, a website!  Now we are getting some where! ....check out the link...PLEASE>
Another Try
Me: #OWS needs organized leadership and chain of command! They need a destination and map to get there! #FlatTax
-Agree they need a plan, leadership, and goals, or a bucket list, lol #OWS
-Organized leadership would change the entire scope. I concur.
-Maybe read some of the stuff from the occupiers...not fox, msnbc or cnn and you maybe will comprehend
Me: Do they have a website, I would love to?
Response: <silence>
I know...maybe I should just give up....
And Then I Hit The Motherload
(The following dialogue was between me and a single individual on Twitter)
ME: I am all for civil disobedience but its just oh SO much more effective when you have an actual message and goal.! #OWS
- The message is the governments unfair & caters to only a small % Also, we'd like it if corporations stop destroying the earth!
ME: so #ows are environmentalist who want fair government?
- no, they're human beings trying to live another day.
ME: who isn't? I am really trying to understand. I am afraid you aren't helping me.
-You're not really trying then. They aren't one thing or another, they are a collective of different people.
ME: they don't have a single goal, they have a lot of goals...they are a group of people who all want different things? (I am really trying to be patient and get to the point already....)
-In a general sense it's to overthrow the failing system. A good amount of it is to bring the broken system to light and hold people/corporations responsible.
ME: I am not intentionally being obtuse...but what exactly are you holding gov and and corp responsible for? which corps? and for what - what would you have them change? Most of the great protests have had a goal in mind: women rights, civil rights, gay rights, democracy, there a goal? #ows
-everything you mentioned is still being fought for, there is no equality in them. Women still earn less then men....minorities are still poor and kept to think they can't do anything about it.... gay people are killing themselves because of discrimination.
ME:  Do they have any suggestions for how they want all these different things achieved or do they just want to be heard?
-YES and thats where you all come in. American's weren't always here, they build & they fucked shit up. So now we start anew.
ME: So you want the native americans to resume control? (giggle)
-Lady, you got to do some homework... i can't give you all the answers.
I would settle for just one, cohesive, definitive answer!   But I love the effort!    
So in conclusion, Occupy Wall Street is about over throwing the government and corporations, while giving America back to the Native Americans and fighting for civil rights, and for all different people with all different goals, that you can't learn about on Fox, MSN, CNN??
If anyone else would like to chime in, I would really love to hear from you!  


Guess I should have brought a tent.......

What is going on?


I think everyone agrees that child molestation is wrong.  And pretty sure everyone would agree that people who enable and cover up for a molester are wrong.  If you know about molestation taking place and do nothing, you are wrong.  So why are students at Penn State rioting in DEFENSE of Paterno?  Why would they defend him?  And not just defend him but violently riot in his defense?  He was the captain of the ship.  He took the glory when then things were good, right?  He then takes the blame when things go wrong!  And oh how wrong things are at Penn State.  But it goes further than just didn’t happen under his watch - he KNEW about this and did nothing.  He admits he “should have done more”  So the students know he is complicit in this egregious act and still take to the streets in a violent show of support for him???  This is surely an alarming commentary on the state of morality amongst our youth!  I am outraged, disgusted but mostly concerned for the future of our country.  

I am concerned about how our collective “moral compass” has become so out of whack.  Sure, we have come to expect politicians to be morally compromised.  Its become common to see celebrities, heads of companies, etc do the perp walk.  Now this lack of morality has seeped into every day folks.  Young adults, students who are thought to be idealist, free thinkers, full of promise and hope for the future are instead rioting FOR the bad guys?  This just can’t be good.


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"Tori & Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood"


We all know who Tori Spelling is, right?  Hollywood elite. Daughter of Candy and the late Aaron Spelling, 90201 original cast, etc, etc.... Yes, that Tori Spelling.  Apparently, she also has a reality show.  Go figure.  I was recently approached by Oxygen to have a look at the 1st episode of their SIXTH SEASON!   (How did I miss season 1-5??)  

Call me crazy, but if some one is nice enough to send me something, I feel the least I can do is watch it ...with an open mind.  Besides, if it lasted SIX seasons, how bad could it be?  

Guess what?  I liked it.  I really liked it.  
The episode chronicles Tori and her husband Dean’s daily escapades: running a home and managing their busy careers while raising their two children and maintaining cherished friendships.  Sound familiar?  Yes, oddly enough, their situations are very relatable!  In this episode, Tori has amassed too much “stuff” and Dean insists she figure out what to do with it.  (been there, done that!)  In this episode I finally also meet their wonderful friends “The Guncles”.  I have read so much about them already on Twitter.  The Guncles are charming and their newest addition is beyond breathtaking.  

After one episode I can tell you  I am hooked.  So far,  I like the entire cast. Dean seems to be a good man, a dedicated parent, and a devoted (albeit at times frustrated) husband.  Tori’s “gay husband”  Mehran  is priceless and I’ve decided  I really need my own “Gusband” (its time).  (Applicants for this position can tweet me @MomsThoughts)   Granted, I can not relate to wanting farm animals in my home or to having the luxury of primarily being the “good parent” as Tori describes herself, but there is just something very endearing about the honesty in which Tori is portrayed.  I am definitely nothing like her and that may be exactly why I would probably love to have her as my best friend.

I don’t want to give too much away, so let me just tell you there is a lot of "new" going on in this episode! I enjoyed this reality show very much.  Despite Tori coming from one of Hollywood’s most successful and well-known families, she is refreshingly down to earth and honestly quirky.  The show has genuine drama.  It rings true.  There is no contrived cat fights, backstabbing or tableflipping.  Its nice .  Its a nice reality show with pure joyful moments, funny escapades and honest frustrations.  
Obviously, once the season is underway, you can count on me for honest opinions. I can't imagine liking every thing that every person ever does!

I would give the show 3.75 out of 5 stars.  Have you watched?  Will you watch?  

Oxygen’s “Tori & Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood” Season 6 premiere’s on November 29, 10pm ET/PT.


What are those lyrics???

FOSTER THE PEOPLE "Pumped Up Kicks"  - WHAT are the lyrics?

Yesterday I spent pretty much the entire day in the car with my kids, about 13 hours with the exception of the 2 hours spent at Dupont Children's Hospital in Delaware and the hour spent at the auto repair place in the middle of Maryland. During the long day, we naturally listened to the radio and typically, I sang along.  Also typically, when I don't know the words, I just make them up.  :)  (My kids hate  


The song "Pumped Up Kicks" came on several times over the course of the day.  I have no idea what they are saying but it is such a catchy tune and sounds like just fun catchy "pop".  I was singing something like "All the other kids with their bumpty bump" etc....  Finally my son says "Mom, do you even have any idea what they are singing about?"   "NOOOOPE!"  I respond and blissfully continue making up my own words.  With that, he turns off the radio and says, "All the other kids with their pumped up kicks, You better run, better run, outrun my gun…All the other kids with the pumped up kicks, You better run, better run, faster than my bullet.”




This wasn't fun anymore.  I am not going to lie.  I was pretty surprised. This happy sounding pop song was a really dark, sad, song.  


Did you know this is what they were singing?  What song lyrics have shocked you lately?  What song lyrics have you gotten completely wrong?  Comment Below!  


Pumped Up Kicks


Robert’s got a quick hand.
He’ll look around the room, he won’t tell you his plan.
He’s got a rolled cigarette, hanging out his mouth he’s a cowboy kid.
Yeah he found a six shooter gun.
In his dads closet hidden in a box of fun things, and I don’t even know what.
But he’s coming for you, yeah he’s coming for you.

“All the other kids with the pumped up kicks
You better run, better run, outrun my gun…”
“All the other kids with the pumped up kicks,
You better run, better run, faster than my bullet.”
“All the other kids with the pumped up kicks
You better run, better run, outrun my gun…”
“All the other kids with the pumped up kicks,
You better run, better run, faster than my bullet.”


Daddy works a long day.
He be coming home late, yeah he’s coming home late.
And he’s bringing me a surprise.
‘Cause dinner’s in the kitchen and it’s packed in ice.
I’ve waited for a long time.
Yeah the sleight of hand is now a quick pull trigger,
I reason with my cigarette,
And say your hair’s on fire, you must have lost your wits, yeah.

“All the other kids with the pumped up kicks
You better run, better run, outrun my gun…”
“All the other kids with the pumped up kicks,
You better run, better run, faster than my bullet.”
“All the other kids with the pumped up kicks
You better run, better run, outrun my gun…”
“All the other kids with the pumped up kicks,
You better run, better run, faster than my bullet.” 



What Surprised Me About "The Real Housewives of New Jersey Reunion"?

Last night's "explosive" reunion sort of fizzled in my opinion.  Was there any big surprise or revelation?  I didn't think so.  What did we learn that we already didn't know?  


I have always known I don't like Teresa.  For starters, I do not like people who break the law or who have no respect for the law.  These are selfish people.  These are people who think they are so incredible, that they do not have to confine themselves to the rules the rest of society does.  We the people decide what we the people should and shouldn't be allowed to do.  I have always taught my children:  If you don't like the rule or law, you work to change it, you don't break it!  You don't get to pick and chose which laws work for you.  That is just where it starts with my reasons for not liking Teresa and her husband.  I have never made a secret about this.  (This is my opinion, based on my experience and instinct.  I know others will have a different take on her based on their experience and motives.  That is just how life works.) 


Teresa has made quite a nice living behaving badly.  While I am glad if this translates into her creditors being paid, because they deserve to be paid, it is difficult to watch.  The table flip heard round the world launched a new career and Teresa was quick to learn the more she acted out, the more attention she got and the more books she sold.  So naturally the behavior escalated.  In my opinion, it is all contrived, calculated and selfish.  She intentionally starts trouble with no regard for any collateral damage. She craves the spotlight.  No friendship or moral code will influence her quest!  (She may have made a fatal error in her quest for stardom though when she threw Bravo Andy down last season, she is obviously no longer in his good graces!)  


So, no. Nothing about Teresa's behavior on the reunion surprised me.  What surprised me about the reunion was Caroline's reaction to Teresa.  I believe Caroline to be a very reasonable, thoughtful person.  I think she has good insight, seasoned by experience and motherhood.  It hurts to see her so easily rattled by some one like Teresa.  Frankly, I have long wondered why on earth Caroline would be friends with her.  It just didn't make sense to me.  It surprised me that she would allow Teresa to get to her.  You can see Kathy and Melissa are more accustomed to dealing with Teresa's childish methods.  Teresa deflects and shifts subjects to avoid the heat then turns it around to the other person.  Melissa and Kathy shut it down by not engaging her. This doesn't mean Teresa wins, it means Kathy and Melissa know there is no arguing with stupid.  But Caroline reacted! I didn't expect that. She was so passionate and emotional.  Why? Caroline, Why?  Its pointless!  I might have thought it was Caroline's attempt to bring drama (and thereby secure her place in the spotlight too) but these reactions seemed real, unbridled and passionate. The best way to deal with people like Teresa is to just shut up and let them hang themselves - because they will. Let the Karma take care of itself. I am sure Caroline knows this cognitively but reacted emotionally. I can only imagine this is a real source of pent up frustration for Caroline to become so uncharacteristically rattled!  Caroline let Teresa get to her! 


The other thing that continues to surprise me are the (few) people who take Teresa and her antics seriously. For some reason they think I am being disloyal (?) by condemning bad behavior. I do not understand that.  Teresa is on a television show that is designed to showcase controversial behavior.  Her bad behavior has made her a lot of money.  The worst thing that could possibly happen to any of the reality personalities is to have no one talking about them.  Why would anyone be surprised that I do not appreciate or condone Teresa's contrived  antics?  Isn't that what she wants?  Controversy?  Doesn't she crave the spotlight? 


Beyond was all noise.  I tuned it out the way I used to tune out my kids when they were little and would start arguing in the back seat: "You're a liar"  "No YOU are"  "Well you're the devil because you are wearing the red"  "You shut up"  "No, you shut up"  <yawn>  


I wish Bravo would go back to the original formula with these shows:  Super wealthy women, living fabulous, over the top lives.  I like seeing the funny, lighter side of life.  The silly things that they do.  The normal, every day disagreements between friends,etc.  I want it a light, fun, silly escape.  I am bored with the dark, dumb, selfish, childish behavior of broke, greedy, immature housewives looking to sell crap. 

** At the conclusion of the Real Housewives of New Jersey Reunion, Dina Manzo tweeted a link to her blog which would explain her side.  Her site crashed with all the traffic that tweet drove.  All I can say about her blog is be careful what star you hitch your wagon to.  
Were you surprised about anything in last night's conclusion?  Share your take on the reunion! 

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